During this past year, many of us have seen the masks disappear from the faces in our social networks. We have been shocked, dismayed, and angered by their betrayal, especially after we worked so hard at building relationships with them despite their overbearing demeanors. Now that they have shown their true colors, we have been given a choice of taking the low road or the high road in our responses to their mockery, instability, and rage.
In taking the low road, we could choose to continue to deny what is happening and pretend that it will get better soon enough. Or we can give them a taste of their own medicine by using their tactics against them. After deception, this sounds like a mighty satisfying option, albeit one with a short reward time span. If we choose the attack strategy, we must be prepared for a long and tedious war. We must be able to live with the fallout upon our own personalities and the living qualities of our loved ones.
In taking the high road, we could choose to reject the negative and focus on only the positive. We can build upon our successes while refusing to become bogged down in small-minded banter with small-minded people. We can simply walk away from them, accept the fact that they won’t ever change, and take solace within our own like-minded people. The only problem with this approach is that it does not deal with learned deceptive behavior, which is as likely to spread throughout communities just as a contagious and deadly virus would.
Recovery from deception requires forward motion. However, recovery is often met with resistance by those who feel left behind. Former drug addicts witness this phenomenon within their own families and friendship circles. That is part of their struggle to come clean. On the other side of the coin, drug addicts have learned to deceive and manipulate as a means of scoring their next hit because it works. True change will only come when it stops working. Regardless of the road you choose, your choice will be met with resistance by the aggressors. They are addicted to power and control, they are numerous, and they have declared war on civil society.
So, dealing with deceivers most effectively will require a three-pronged approach, or what I refer to as the “Devil’s Advocacy Pitch.” It incorporates preparation, encryption, and application. Stay tuned for a full explanation of the strategy in a future blog post.